Day 25 letter challenge – “OH NO SHE DIDN’T!”
OH YES SHE DID!
Yes, I did that. I skipped 10 days or so of this huge thing that I challenged you all to do. And no I didn’t go back and fill in the missing days. And to make it worse, I’m skipping today’s and tomorrow’s and going directly to Sunday’s letter, in advance, because this letter will sort of tell you what’s been keeping me too busy to participate.
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DAY 25 – a letter to the person I know is going through the worst of times.
My dear beautiful daughter Julie,
So. Your husband says it’s over. He kicked you out of your home, he kept the car, he kept the kid, he kept everything. He made you leave with nothing. Oh sure, you can have Ethan on weekends, and you can have him back full time when you get on your feet – when you save the money for a car, an apartment, furniture etc…. whatever money is left after giving him money to help with Ethan. Geeeeee. How generous of the dirty bastard.
Juju, I can’t believe this has happened. I really am stunned. Just last month Sara and I were talking about you and Brandon. We were saying how perfect you were for each other, how well you balance each other out.
Honey, this will be the hardest thing you’ve ever had to go through in your nearly 26 years on this earth. There will probably be harder things than this in the future, but as of now, this is going to be the hardest. And for Ethan, it will be even harder. But I’m telling you, you can do this. Yes, you CAN be independent, you can be a single mother, and you can and will have Ethan more than 2 days per week. And more than anything, you WILL be happy again. I speak from experience. You know that for the first 2 years of your life, I was a single working mother. I didn’t get to see you much because I had to work 2 jobs. You won’t get to see Ethan much because of your crazy night job, which you now have to keep because it’s the only place you can make enough money to raise him. It was hard for me, but I did it and you survived and so did I. It will be even harder for you for a little while than it was for me. At least my heart wasn’t broken.
Just know that I will be here for you, for whatever you need. Also know that you are not a burden on me in anyway.
Love,
Mom
Melody, I love your heart… and I am praying for Julie and Ethan and even Brandon. And I am in full agreement: Julie, I don’t know the full story, but I don’t need to. What I know is you can DO this. It’s what we mothers do. We get on with it because we have to. We have no choice, and we certainly don’t like it, but we don’t let them get us down.
Cry. Grieve. Then set your face toward the future.
Love to you ladies. My heart breaks for you.
Sharon
Thank you, Sharon. Good advice.
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this. Sounds like a complete heel. Unfortunately, you never really truly know another person. If the mother is any indication, she will come out of this stronger than before. Still is awful to go through or to see a loved one go through. Do not feel bad about not staying with the challenge- that’s a blog thing – do your magic for your family.
Thanks, Nicole.
I haven’t dropped out of the challenge — just was busy but will catch up with a whole pile done at the same time – likely much shorter than the previous ones LOL.
I don’t have any intent when I write my letters — I’ve let them flow from to whom they are addressed. I hope you see the light as well as the dark within them.
Your letter 25 hits hard — that you are there is such a gift.
My prayers go out for Julie and you and your family, Mel. Julie has learned strength and perseverance from a fine mom, and I have no doubts that she will get through this.
I don’t even know her to be honest and -I- thought she had a good marriage from what you’ve said! Hope she’s doing well.
Also praying for Julie and Ethan… and yeh, even Brandon, though differently (WTF’s going on in that head?).
Testing …….testing….1..2…3…..
Is this thing on?
Appears to be…
OK, just checkin’